Oh Jess, it breaks my heart to read so much unhealthy, unfeeling school behavior. It also brings back memories of so very long ago - trying to belong, hoping to belong, trying to figure out who I was and what I believed. Unlike me, your daughter has someone to turn to and you have stepped into such a healing way of working with her. From where I sit reading this, that has turned into a gift to both of you.
Thank you so much for sharing some of what the two of you are experiencing! 💕
That’s interesting reframing, Cathy, that it’s a gift for both of us. Sitting with that for a bit, I agree. My daughter is fundamentally my best teacher, but she’s also the one that pulls out of me things I’ve buried but haven’t necessarily dealt with. My reactivity to her experience tells me there’s work to do there, and that’s such a gift, both to recognize and to have a reason to do.
Oh Jess, it breaks my heart to read so much unhealthy, unfeeling school behavior. It also brings back memories of so very long ago - trying to belong, hoping to belong, trying to figure out who I was and what I believed. Unlike me, your daughter has someone to turn to and you have stepped into such a healing way of working with her. From where I sit reading this, that has turned into a gift to both of you.
Thank you so much for sharing some of what the two of you are experiencing! 💕
That’s interesting reframing, Cathy, that it’s a gift for both of us. Sitting with that for a bit, I agree. My daughter is fundamentally my best teacher, but she’s also the one that pulls out of me things I’ve buried but haven’t necessarily dealt with. My reactivity to her experience tells me there’s work to do there, and that’s such a gift, both to recognize and to have a reason to do.
In some ways, she sounds like a mirror held up for you. When you help her heal, you are also helping yourself. (I think. 😍)