I love this article. I especially love this section “”I get to” reminded me that my life is not happening to me — I am participating in it. I am in relationship with it. I am the creator of it.” Yes! When I realize how powerful my thoughts are, I feel so empowered.
I love hearing this, Hope. There’s no “shoulding“ here at the Joy Luck Club, but when I hear that someone feels empowered, that’s my total jam! Thank you for sharing.
This idea of “stealing from yourself” really hit me. That felt uncomfortably honest in the best way. Not because of the task itself, but because of the story we attach to it….and how much energy that story quietly drains before we even begin. That shift from “I have to” to “I get to” sounds so small, but when you actually sit with it, it changes the entire experience. I needed to hear this. Thank you for putting words words to something so many of us feel but don’t always notice. That ordinary moments aren’t in the way of life they are life
Uncomfortably honest. That’s exactly the same reaction I had when I read Sarah’s words. There are so many things that we can see as have to’s, but they won’t go away. So we can either allow them to drain us, as you say, or see them as the essence of life itself. Thank you so much for reading!
In undergrad, I said “I have to study” when there was something going on.
Someone said. “Maybe you could look at it as ‘I should study’ instead.”
And it was a great perspective shift for me. ‘I get to’ is a step further, as I see it. However, I am pretty sure I won’t get to that with dishes, but I do find most things take a lot less time to do if we just do them and stop letting them have so much power over us.
My mom wouldn’t leave the house without doing the dishes, and although on occasion I know it’s more important to get going, I know I don’t like coming back to them.
Perspective and self-talk are so important - and some of the hardest things to change.
I love this article. I especially love this section “”I get to” reminded me that my life is not happening to me — I am participating in it. I am in relationship with it. I am the creator of it.” Yes! When I realize how powerful my thoughts are, I feel so empowered.
I love hearing this, Hope. There’s no “shoulding“ here at the Joy Luck Club, but when I hear that someone feels empowered, that’s my total jam! Thank you for sharing.
How generous of you, Jess, although I'm not at all surprised at your decision. 😊
This idea of “stealing from yourself” really hit me. That felt uncomfortably honest in the best way. Not because of the task itself, but because of the story we attach to it….and how much energy that story quietly drains before we even begin. That shift from “I have to” to “I get to” sounds so small, but when you actually sit with it, it changes the entire experience. I needed to hear this. Thank you for putting words words to something so many of us feel but don’t always notice. That ordinary moments aren’t in the way of life they are life
Uncomfortably honest. That’s exactly the same reaction I had when I read Sarah’s words. There are so many things that we can see as have to’s, but they won’t go away. So we can either allow them to drain us, as you say, or see them as the essence of life itself. Thank you so much for reading!
In undergrad, I said “I have to study” when there was something going on.
Someone said. “Maybe you could look at it as ‘I should study’ instead.”
And it was a great perspective shift for me. ‘I get to’ is a step further, as I see it. However, I am pretty sure I won’t get to that with dishes, but I do find most things take a lot less time to do if we just do them and stop letting them have so much power over us.
My mom wouldn’t leave the house without doing the dishes, and although on occasion I know it’s more important to get going, I know I don’t like coming back to them.
Perspective and self-talk are so important - and some of the hardest things to change.